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For women in their thirties or forties menopause is the last word they want to hear and the last thing they want to think about. No one wants to admit that theyâ€™re at that stage of their life yet, even if it is just the “pre” menopause stage. It doesnâ€™t ever feel like it should be happening yet, especially when most people still have babies or small children at that age. And yet, you can tell your body doesnâ€™t feel 100% normal.
Youâ€™re not eating any differently but you started gaining wait, your breasts are sore, and your periods are becoming irregular. Youâ€™re skin is dry and your sex drive just isnâ€™t what it used to be. Youâ€™re irritable, tired, and getting headaches. So whatâ€™s the deal, what is happening?
Pre-menopause is something that all women either know about or have at least heard about, but no one seems to have a name for it or be able to recognize it when it rears its ugly head. Millions of women are going through pre-menopause or have experienced some kind of symptoms, but donâ€™t think thereâ€™s any possible way itâ€™s menopause because theyâ€™re still in their early thirties.
Men Dealing With Women’s Menopause Symptoms
By Susan Megge
Some of the changes and symptoms women encounter as they approach menopause can be difficult to withstand, and it’s not unusual to wonder if you’ll ever feel “normal” again. Not only are you dealing with physical symptoms of menopause, such as hot flashes, night sweats, irregular periods and weight gain, but there are many emotional changes that take place as a result of declining hormone levels.
You may experience moodiness, depression or feelings of sadness and hopelessness. If this is the case, there’s a strong likelihood that your mate is feeling somewhat confused by your behavior and may be left wondering if you still love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him.
If your husband or partner is anything like mine, it’s not likely that he’ll research information that’s available to him in order to figure out what’s happening within your body and how it may be affecting your emotions. If men don’t have the answers, how will they respond to the “foreign” you?
Unfortunately, men respond to women’s hormonal imbalances using many different approaches that aren’t always the most effective. Some men simply ignore the problem and hope it will go away, while others may be overbearing and treat their partner as if she’s emotionally fragile and incapable of dealing with life.
The relationship problems couples face during midlife, in most cases, really is usually a lack of communication due to the misunderstanding that results from hormonal imbalances and behavior changes in women approaching menopause.
If you find that you’re facing some challenges in your relationship due to hormone fluctuations, and you don’t honestly see your mate taking the time or initiative to figure out what may be happening, it may be a good idea to tape the following messages to your refrigerator, mirror, tool box or other area where he’s sure to take notice.
1. If your wife or partner is feeling undesirable (and there’s a good chance that this may occur often during this transition), it may be automatic for you to express how beautiful she is. Unfortunately, she is not likely to believe you. Don’t let this become a slammed door, however; continue to be loving, kind and supportive consistently and eventually she will trust that you really do find her desirable.
2. Since your wife is not feeling sexy as a result of the weight she has likely gained during this period in her life, please don’t let your eyes pop out of your head when a young sexy woman appears on TV or passes by you in a restaurant. And worse yet, avoid the temptation to flirt with younger women. This behavior is insensitive and uncalled for, and only adds to an already strained relationship.
3. When you think your wife is behaving irrationally, remember that she’s not crazy and zip it! That’s right – just keep your thoughts to yourself because oftentimes what men view as irrational, women do not.
4. When your wife has something she’d like to tell you, listen! Don’t dismiss her, even if you’ve heard this same story over and over again. It’s important to your wife to have a partner – one with whom she can communicate. If it’s tempting to interrupt her, take a moment to put yourself in her shoes and decide how you would feel if your every thought or emotion were brushed off as if it meant nothing.
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